Do you think you are smarter than the average person ?
How good are you at perspective sharing ?
How good are you at seeing reality ?
Do you see things as they really are ?
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Are you free of biases ?
Our minds are selective about what we see, we only see what we pay attention to or look for, or expect to see…
In our day to day life we automatically assume we see reality and we have no cognitive biases, and what we see is what is really “as it really is”
When we hear other people and we don’t see what they see we can laugh at them, disagree, accuse them of telling untruths,
More often than we care to admit, we see what we expect to see.
The gist of the blog is a story about Alfred Hitchcock and Grace Kelly
Alfred Hitchcock; one of his favorite leading ladies, Grace Kelly; and Kelly’s breasts.
Kelly had turned down the chance to star alongside Marlon Brando in On the Waterfront to play opposite Jimmy Stewart in Hitchcock’s 1954 suspense classic, Rear Window. Kelly and Hitchcock got along famously. But one day, Kelly later recalled in an interview, a minor snag developed on the set regarding Kelly’s wardrobe.
“At the rehearsal for the scene in Rear Window when I wore a sheer nightgown, Hitchcock called for [costume designer] Edith Head. He came over here and said, ‘Look, the bosom is not right, we’re going to have to put something in there.’ He was very sweet about it; he didn’t want to upset me, so he spoke quietly to Edith. We went into my dressing room and Edith said, ‘Mr. Hitchcock is worried because there’s a false pleat here. He wants me to put in falsies.’
“‘Well,’ I said, ‘You can’t put falsies in this, it’s going to show—and I’m not going to wear them.’ And she said, ‘What are we going to do?’ So we quickly took it up here, made some adjustments there, and I just did what I could and stood as straight as possible—without falsies. When I walked out onto the set Hitchcock looked at me and at Edith and said, ‘See what a difference they make?’”
Expectations are like that: They make us see the falsies that aren’t there. Decades of research have proven that expectation is a powerful force. It acts on our perceptions much as gravity acts on light, bending them in ways that are measurable by others, but, at least to us, imperceptible. Not only do we tend to see what we expect to see, we also tend to experience what we expect to experience. As Hitchcock proved, this can make all the difference.
ALL TO OFTEN WE SEE WHAT WE EXPECT TO SEE. Our minds are great at deceiving us ourselves.